Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Together, but not!

During my short Easter break I was talking to a friend about moving in with the person you love, something that she has decided not to do, regardless of the fact that she's been with her boyfriend for almost 4 years. I've had this same conversation with several other people lately, including a guy friend who told me "oh, we moved together, but I still have my own place, that's what keeps me happy in this relationship".

So, I was thinking: maybe relationships have changed... I mean, first, it was falling in love, getting married and living together. Then it was moving together before getting married, or maybe just moving together, having a family and not getting married. Being in love and sharing a common project does seem like enough to make the commitment to live with and share our lives with our "other half", don't you think? but now, there is another option which is to fall in love of course, spend time with your sweetheart, enjoy each others' company and share experiences, but not a home!

Perhaps there are those who choose this way of "outdoor relationship" because they are divorced and have already lived with someone, so they fear making the same mistakes? or they simply choose to live alone cause they appreciate their independence and individual space; there are also those who have children and prefer to dedicate their time to them; and those who are just young and not ready to commit. Either way, it's a new thing happening among couples here in Argentina. A (can I call it "practice"?) I don't entirely agree with, but understand.

Photo by: decorablog


The Photodiarist said...

Fascinating commentary. Things are evolving all of the time in the arena of love. Maybe marriage is not necessarily the only way . . . or even living together. Maybe the best way for relationships to survive is to build in space. Interesting topic, I think.

TakeitEZE said...

thanks! you're so right... things are evolving and in my opinion, there are no rules when it comes to love. I think that people are more honest about the way they feel these days and act accordingly... regardless of outside demands, which in the past governed in a large way the way we lived our lives!! and love.