Thursday, April 12, 2012

Happy Monkeys





















According to a recent study* published last week by La Nación newspaper, being happy is the main goal for Argentinians. The importance of happiness is greater than love, even, and much greater than wealth, recognition and power.
The study tries to approach different dimensions of happiness. In this part of the study (the second of three parts) the study focuses on the importance of happiness versus other life objectives which are commonly considered vital.

As a first conclusion of this second part of the study, results reveal that being happy is the main objective for Argentinians. Happiness (which was presented to individuals in a list with other words considered equally important in life, such as love and peace) was mentioned in the first place. Love and peace got second and third place. Other words such as recognition, power and wealth were in the last place and considered the least important by the respondents.

Monday, April 9, 2012

The "complete" mother



It's a known fact that parents are responsible for the kind of person that their children become as they grow. For those who are constantly trying to be good parents and find themselves in in the roller coaster that this adventure can become, Stephen B. Poulter, a psychologist who specializes in family relationships gives us some clarity.

Friday, April 6, 2012

Bond - i Girls






























































































































































































So last night I was a at a dinner party and someone told me about this photographer, whose identity for now remains unknown. This photographer guy takes photos of girls who travel in public transportation, mostly buses, in the city of Buenos Aires. I have chosen some of his photos to share with you, but you can see more in
this facebook page.

He calls them Bondi Girls. Bondi is the Spanish word for bus. Thus the name. His motto is "no permission, no posing". If he sees a girl posing, he will cancel the photo.  He wants to catch people the way they are.

Cheers to all the bond -i girls-  in Buenos Aires and of course to their personal photographer.

Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Un- complicate































- F: Pleasure is never simple, as you very well know.
- J: It is, until we decide to complicate it.

Freud to Jung on the film A Dangerous Method.

Once
































































Once (pronounced uhn-se) is a non-official neighborhood in the city of Buenos Aires. Perhaps that's why some people call it "the non-place." Once is actually an area of a larger neighborhood called Balvanera.

Once could be described as a chaotic labyrinth of numerous shops and discount stores.

Monday, April 2, 2012

Life is too short to...























* not fall in love deeply

* have a job that you don't love

* postpone getting a ticket to go to that place (or places) you've been dreaming of

* not tell people how you feel

* not be who you really are

* not dance and sing MORE

* not spend a quiet day with yourself

* not help make a difference

* not feel gratitude (for the small things also)

* not be a better sister, brother, daughter, son, mother, wife, husband, father, friend, grandfather, grandson, grandaughter...

* not tweet

* not be the best at whatever it is that you do

* not smile

* be too worried about consuming chocolate, coffee, wine

* not read more

* not do sports as often as you can

* not spend more time in contact with nature

* not hug

* not take risks

* not be more curious



Please tell us what other things "life is too short to..." miss. We'd love to know your thoughts on this. xx

Thursday, March 22, 2012

Easter travel ideas





















































As usual, at this time of the year, I like to recommend Easter travel ideas. So here I am again! let me open this door to share this little paradise, Los Cauquenes Lodge in Ushuaia, Argentina (also known as the end of the world) with you. As you'll see in these photos, the lodge is beautiful and the natural landscapes are breathtaking. If you love a mix of adventure and relaxation, this is it. Enjoy!











































































above, the view from my suite.
below, the end of the world train
below that, chasing waterfalls















































Patagonian Fjords, amazing!!

















































More fun after long, adventurous days. Nice bar at Kaupé, one of my favorite restaurants in Ushuaia.


Photos 1,3,4, 5 courtesy Los Cauquenes

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

The Tao






























We recently found a copy of the Tao Te Ching by Lao Tsu. Have you read it? if you haven't, we recommend it. The book was a gift from Michelle's father. In the dedication, he noted that, as a boy, he had the chance to be in a lecture by a famous physicist at the university. He was 16 then. Her father asked the physicist what book would he recommend if he could only choose one. To which the physicist replied: the Tao.

It is, in our opinion a difficult book to understand, at first. Perhaps, a good idea is to read it a couple of times. We value the teachings of the Tao because of how different they are to Western values. We were taught, for example, that when we feel that change is necessary, it can be achieved through effort and perseverance. Contrary to this thought and more aligned with the theory of Acceptance, the Tao, says that we should accept what is in front of us without wanting the situation to be other than it is.

We should study the natural order of things and work with it rather than against it, for to try and change what is, only sets up resistance. It teaches us that nature provides everything without requiring payment or thanks. The idea behind the Tao is to let yourself flow as freely as possible.

Whatever you're trying to accomplish, it will happen more naturally if you stop looking for results and value the "trip", walk that path.

If your mind is calm you will come to "understand" which means "to stand under". Te - which may be translated as "virtue" or "strength" lies always in Tao, or "natural law" in other words: Simply be.

To Westerners who may disagree, or are not willing to accept a different perspective, this may just be a "Chineese tale*"!

But, a good one to think about.



*Chineese tale is the translation for "Cuento Chino" an Argentinian Film with Buenos Aires- born actor, Ricardo Darín




Monday, March 5, 2012

Acceptance

































How many times do we expect from another person to be something that they’re not? How often are we dissatisfied because of things that we have not been able to get or achieve? How often does life pass us by, while we are upset because we’d like for things to be different?

It’s not about losing hope or settling for less than our dreams. Comfort and gratitude are good states unless they prevent you from reaching your full potential. It’s about acceptance. It’s about understanding that we don’t have control over everything; we can’t live our lives trying to change things or people into what we want them to be. Accepting is understanding that for now, this is the way things are. At least for now. At this moment in time.

Sometimes, the best you can do is do everything that you can and then simply wait. To accept does not mean that you have to change your plans, it means that sometimes when you stop being so controlling and just let things flow, there is a bigger chance of things flowing in the direction that you want. 

To accept is to live in accordance with your own being. It’s about having the courage of living your own life, and not subordinating yourself to someone else’s plans. Often, the fear of being “excluded” can lead to adapting our wishes, expectations or decisions to those expectations from who we want a (false) acceptance.

To accept is a commitment to ourselves; to be honest about the way WE feel and think.

The theory of acceptance invites us to live our lives now, without travelling to the past or the future, so that we don’t lose focus. To accept is to be in touch with reality, with the present time, with what is happening here and now.

It’s liberating to think that once we stop being a fighting force and let things flow more naturally with what we have, we will breathe new airs, without leaving everything to the whims of uncertain times. After the rain, the sun always shines. If it’s raining today, try walking in the rain.



Extract from an article I read yesterday.
Source: LNR
This article is written by Jose Antonio García Higuera, a psychologist from Spain.
Translation: Michelle Cameron
Photo courtesy: Vogue UK

Monday, February 27, 2012

Puma Urban Art












Jeremy Fish

Photo courtesy: Puma Urban Art


Puma Urban Art 2012 - street art exhibition will take place this weekend (March 3 & 4) at the Centro Cultural Recoleta.

The event gathers the best national and international urban artists such as Jeremy Fish and Ron English, in a space dedicated to contemporary art and the new trends on street art around the world.

Exhibitions of national and international works; graffiti 3D; the projection of films and documentaries related to the Urban Art movement; live painting; local and international bands are some of the activities programmed for the event.

Enjoy! xo

Where? Junin 1930.
Entrance is free but limited.

Thursday, February 16, 2012

Thirty Something



















You know that song "Paradise" by Coldplay? there is a part that says: "life goes on, it gets so heavy..."

After thirty, people start to have issues. Not that we don't have them before but when we're twenty, for example, who cares if we screw up? I mean isn't that what young people do? At thirty, however, it's a different story and we become more demanding of ourselves. We expect something more from our lives.

Deep conversations with people in their thirties, friends mostly, have led me to realise the diversity of needs and wishes that people have:

- Some are looking for a partner.

- Some people want to quit their jobs and get a ticket to go see the world.

- Some are looking for a job (or a better job)

- Some are looking for a new apartment or house.

- Some want a husband who is more connected to the family.

- Some people want to make more money.

- Others want a divorce.

- Some people want kids.

- Some people want to fall in love with their partner all over again.

- Some men want their wives to work or study or just do something different than spend all day with the kids.

- Some want to have sex with their wives again.

- Some people don't know what they want.


Those are just some examples, but the important thing, I think, is to not feel alone in whatever your "search" is. Just remember that there are many people in their thirties with issues just like you. Remember also, that there is a direct link between how we see the world, the actions we take and the results we get.

Once we understand this, we are free to make the change or changes that will bring us closer to our truest wishes and needs.

Monday, February 13, 2012

Monday find








































































































Love this new, David Lynch-inspired boutique with a focus on hip, Argentinian designers: UNMO, Passion Fruit, Carolina Aubele, Sibilia, Think Pink, Neon, Costansoup, Papas y Ruido, Lovely Louisa, Sr. Icecram, Juli Santini, Guadalupe Martirena, EUPHORIA, among others.

The small boutique has high energy. The mix of cool materials such as metal (used in the rocket-like dressing rooms) and wood, make it's interior design as interesting and fun as the objects and clothes found inside.

I loved these lamps (first photograph) made to honor Minoru Yamasaki, an architect best known for his design of the twin towers of the World Trade Center. There's only 100 of these lamps.


Check it out! you'll like it.

Where? Arce 941, Las Cañitas

Thanks to Bruno the person in charge of the boutique for his kindness!

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Friends























She's told me that I'm "the sister she never had" imagine what a thrill that is.

She makes me laugh until tears fall out and my stomach hurts. She makes fun of me when I'm too serious. She questions me. Sometimes, she makes me think that I'm brilliant and sometimes that my ideas are too naïf.

She trusts me and tells me everything openly and honestly.

She believes in me.

Her heart is infinite. If I say that I like her shoes she'll ask if I'd like to change them for mine. If you like a lamp or even a piece of furniture in her house, she will say "take it".
She gives for the pleasure of giving.

We've studied and worked together and she has always challenged me when I have not met her expectations (or my own) because she expects more, because she knows I am capable of more and does not want me to settle for less. She is passionate about the things she does and does not like mediocrity.

When I have a negative view of myself, she gives me thoughtful words, she cheers me up, or she's simply there.

I met her in class at the university. I was lucky.

Every year we travel to "some" place. We meet, we choose the place and after a short time, we're gone!

Last year I had surgery. When I was about to receive anesthesia, the doctor told me: "Now think of something nice" and I saw my friend! Yes, I saw both of us in a convertible car going from Carmel to San Francisco. We were singing and laughing. I imagined I had a handkerchief in my head, and that it flew. Eventually, we took this trip and it was better than I had imagined.

If I had to "think of something nice" again, I would imagine us dancing. She dances with this same step since we were 20; one hand up in the air, perhaps a drink in her other hand and always a smile in her face as she moves to the rhythm of the music.

Last November we went to Barcelona. She posted a few photos of our trip but I wanted to add more words to those photos. On that trip, we were lucky to meet other friends. Good friends, like us. We all met on a train, on our way to a bike tour of the vineyards in Spain. The four of us became close friends (you know, depth of friendship does not entirely depend on how long you know someone) and spent almost every day together til our journey ended. One of them lived in Washington D.C. and was visiting the other who was living in Barcelona. On a cold Saturday afternoon we separated from our new friends. It was time for everyone to part. It was weird to say bye.

On our way to the airport my friend was quiet. I thought she was sleepy but later on she said that she was feeling a bit emotional; that as we drove away from the city in the taxi, she re-lived every moment of our trip.

I think friends are a gift and I am thankful for the few, good ones that I have and for the memories that we create together.

Hugs!

Post by: Valeria Mendez Cañas