How many times do we expect from another person to be something that they’re not? How often are we dissatisfied because of things that we have not been able to get or achieve? How often does life pass us by, while we are upset because we’d like for things to be different?
It’s not about losing hope or settling for less than our dreams. It’s about acceptance. It’s about understanding that we don’t have control over everything; we can’t live our lives trying to change things or people into what we want them to be. Accepting is understanding that for now, this is the way things are. At least for now. At this moment in time.
Sometimes, the best you can do is do everything that you can and then simply wait. To accept does not mean that you have to change your plans, it means that sometimes when you stop being so controlling and just let things flow, there is a bigger chance of them flowing.
To accept is to live in accordance with your own being. It’s about having the courage of living your own life, and not subordinating yourself to someone else’s plans. Often, the fear of being “excluded” can lead to adapting our wishes, expectations or decisions to those expectations from who we want a (false) acceptance.
To accept is a commitment to ourselves; to be honest about the way WE feel and think.
The theory of acceptance invites us to live our lives now, without travelling to the past or the future, so that we don’t lose focus. To accept is to be in touch with reality, with the present time, with what is happening here and now.
It’s liberating to think that once we stop being a fighting force and let things flow more naturally with what we have, we will breathe new airs, without leaving everything to the whims of uncertain times. After the rain, the sun always shines. If it’s raining today, try walking in the rain.
Extract from an article I read yesterday.
This article is written by Jose Antonio García Higuera, a psychologist from Spain.
Translation: Michelle Cameron
Photo courtesy: Vogue UK